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A transgender author and actress reveals in an Instagram post that, in her previous life as a male, the late U.S. Senator Lindsey Graham (R-SC) paid her a "fat stash of cash" to do "unspeakable things" to him, according to a report at The Advocate, which is billed as the world's premier site for news about the LGBT community.
Jesse James Rose tells her story to Guispe Lopez, lifestyle and health writer for The Advocate and its sibling publication them.us. Lopez writes:
After longtime U.S. Republican Senator Lindsey Graham died on Saturday night, reportedly from aortic dissection, the reaction from the LGBTQ+ community was immediate.
Indeed, some young queer people weren’t made aware of the senator’s death via a push notification from a publication. Instead, a now-viral Instagram post from trans author and actress Jesse James Rose, in which she details an alleged experience of being paid by Graham for sex work prior to her gender transition, while she attended college, ended up inadvertently being the way many found out about the politician’s passing. The author attended New York University and holds a degree in Music Theatre and Child & Adolescent Mental Health Studies, according to her bio. Them has reached out to Rose for comment, and to Graham’s Senate office separately.
Graham died unexpectedly on Saturday evening (7/11/26), and Rose woke up, apparently the next morning, and quickly realized she knew this man in the headlines in a much different way than was being presented in news accounts -- although many who follow politics closely had long suspected there was another side to Graham that he had steadfastly denied through the years. Rose promptly got her story out to the public, suggesting Graham skeptics had been on the correct trail all along. Lopez gets right to the heart of her story:
“Just woke up to find out Lindsey Graham is dead. lol??? Most of you know him as the homophobic Senator from South Carolina but to me he will always be the man who paid a twinky pre-transition college student a fat stack of cash to do unspeakable things to him in a hotel room while he wore red lingerie,” the Sorry I Keep Crying During Sex author wrote in the three-slide post, accompanied by a hand raising emoji. “It is a canon trans event to have far right freaks bankrolling you & then turning around and voting against you.”
“People loooooove to judge us for it but I never see them opening their wallets!!! Shout out to s*x workers everywhere forced to humanize their enemies just to make rent,” she continued. “It is an absolute mindfvck too me that one of the reasons I have any semblance of financial security (& a lack of student loans) is because of this man.”
When Rose first encountered Graham in her previous life as a male, she did not connect him to Congress or any other position of renown, but it quickly became clear that he had access to large sums of cash and was willing to part with some of it in exchange for his/her ability to perform . . . well, "unspeakable acts." Lopez picks up the story from there, quoting Rose:
“At the time I had no idea who he was, and I only figured it out because another group of twinks leaked Lady G to the media,” Rose continued. “Some queer tried to grandstand critique this, saying we shouldn’t ‘out’ people. I believe bigots with power deserve no peace or privacy, especially when they hold public office. I’m glad they did it. Icons forever.”
Lopez notes that rumors regarding his sexuality had followed Graham for years. But the senator had always denied them, usually in a fairly calm manner. Perhaps he knew the side of him that Rose had seen would not play well to the conservative electorate in South Carolina. Lopez writes:
Graham consistently denied being gay until the end of his life. When comedian Chelsea Handler made insinuations about his sexuality online in 2018, the Senator responded to the allegations, saying, “To the extent that it matters, I’m not gay.”
However, while Rose’s recent post following Graham’s death is one of the most direct instances of a queer person alleging that Graham had hired them for sex work, it isn’t the first. In 2020, porn performer Sean Harding posted online, implying that an unnamed Republican senator had hired multiple gay sex workers, including him. People connected the story to Graham based on the nickname “Lady G,” a code name sex workers in D.C. allegedly used to refer to the South Carolina legislator. The nickname followed Graham for what would turn out to be the final years of his life.
As recently as 2025, right-wing influencer and Trump ally Laura Loomer said that Graham was gay while testifying under oath for a deposition. “Several of President Trump’s staff have told me in confidence that Lindsey Graham is gay,” Loomer said during the deposition, which she later defended online, saying she did not want to perjure herself.
Dealing with rumors about his sexuality did not keep Graham from maintaining a solid right-wing stance on policy matters that might impact the LGBT community. Lopez writes:
Despite these rumors, Graham maintained his anti-LGBTQ+ policy stances for the entirety of his political career. Additionally, he also aided in the creation and passage of SESTA/FOSTA, a set of laws passed under the Trump administration that attacked online sex work under the guise of fighting trafficking, while allegedly making the industry more dangerous for sex workers. Graham also sponsored the EARN IT Act in 2020, which further targeted online sex work.
“Lindsey, rest in hell for what you did to our community,” Rose’s post concluded. “I will continue to love queer and trans people harder than you ever hated us. You loved every second of our time together and now everyone knows.”
Many commenters thanked Rose for her vulnerability in calling out the perceived political hypocrisy of opposing LGBTQ+ and sex workers’ rights while allegedly leading a secret double life. Among the high-profile voices of support were actor Alyson Stoner, fellow author Max Delsohn, actress and Gaydar host Anania, and musician Ezra Deran Michel.
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