Douglas L. Healy, the proprietor of Healy Law Offices LLC -- which has locations in Springfield and Jefferson City, Missouri, and Little Rock, Arkansas -- even refers to himself as "the unwilling sperm donor . . ., not the dad." Almost in the same breath, Healy threatens to "do whatever it takes to gain sole custody."
In a 2014 email, Healy refers to his "girlfriend and soon to be wife," be we can find no public records that indicate he is married. Did the girlfriend vanish? That's not clear, but she was a major part of Healy's communication with DeAnna Kelley, his son's mother, who refused Healy's request to have an abortion and is raising the child on her own in Poplar Bluff, MO.
What are Healy's feelings toward his own son -- and he has acknowledged in court documents that the child is his? They are somewhat short of loving, downright nasty perhaps. From the 2014 email (which is embedded at the end of this post):
As terrible as your decision has been, and as uncomfortable as your decision making has made me, I have respected you and your decision and not said anything to you or any third person to date aside from my girlfriend. I wish you would offer me the same courtesy and respect. You seem happy by this pregnancy; it makes me sick at my stomach to think about having a bastard child in Poplar Bluff when I'm finally with the person I was meant to be with. I'm not leaving her for you. Period. If I could change one thing in my life right now, it would be that we never went past texting in July. I really can't imagine anything worse at the moment than what is happening. Your plan on how to handle this is making a bad spot in life much worse. I don't want to be associated with your decision in any manner.
Healy's reference to July appears to mark the time frame when he invited Kelley to his home in Ozark, MO, and they wound up having sex, which produced a pregnancy. Less than one month later, Healy was writing to Kelley about having found his "soon to be wife." He didn't know about his girlfriend in July? Kelley states that she had no idea Healy was involved with a serious girlfriend when he invited her to his home But in August 2014, Healy seemed to be obsessed with this "future spouse," who he neglected to mention one month earlier. From the email:
You seem to be insisting that I have a relationship with both you and the child. I have been very clear that is not going to happen. I have also been clear that I am not starting a family here, and also maintaining one in Poplar Bluff. You have ignored my advice and wishes, and now seemingly want to guilty me into supporting your bad decisions. Your disrespect and disregard for me is harming my relationship with my girlfriend, and soon to be wife. She reads all of your texts, and is convinced that the only reason you are keeping this pregnancy is in a hope of having a relationship with me; she sees you as a selfish person intent on destroying the happiness we have, and in embarrassing me publicly, and as a threat to her. I understand her feelings, and I wish you would consider her in your decisions as well. . . . You told me you would not terminate or put the child up for adoption, and I didn't tell you that I felt that you were foolish for not considering these alternatives; I listened and respected your decisions. I expected you to do the same when you said you would leave me alone and respect my anonymity and not involve me. I was clear that I wanted nothing to do with being a part-time father when I was preparing to start my own family; a single person should not raise a child, it simply isn't a proper environment.
Healy seems to have no sense of obligation toward his son or the child's mother -- and his decision to skip out on three years of child-support payments appears to reflect that ; he has been making court-ordered child-support payments for roughly the past year:
If you do choose to go down the path you have started, then I'm asking you, for the second time, to never contact me again, and to never mention my name to the child. I'm assuming at this point that you simply wanted a baby. Good for you; I feel no obligation or guilt since that is your decision, and clearly not mine. There is no other rational decision for your decision. As far as I'm concerned, I'm the unwilling sperm donor, but I'm not the dad. There is a big difference. There was no love involved in its conception, just two consenting adults, and that was just a big mistake in and of itself. Why you wouldn't let a couple truly in love raise it is simply beyond my grasp.
With that, Healy's tone turns ugly, threatening, and vindictive:
If you do continue to seek my involvement, in any manner, either by telling other people that I am the father, through the courts, or through attempts to contact me directly, I will do whatever it takes to gain sole custody. I will do whatever it takes to make sure you never see it again, and me and my wife will raise it without it ever knowing it wasn't ours. It make take a year or two, but I will ultimately get sole custody and have your rights terminated. That would be best for the child, as we would raise it in a traditional home, where it would be loved and would never know what happened. You would not be involved in any manner. I would rather not do this, but I will if you insist on my involvement going forward.
(To be continued)